Is there an art for cutting off people? Today this thought came to mind as a good friend of mine said something that really put this question to the test. I would go into explanation of what happened, but I am sure everyone has been into a situation with a friend that made them think “why the fuck am I friends with this person”, or “maybe this is not what I signed up for”. None the less cutting off person can be difficult especially if that person has been in your life for some time. There is a reason you kept a person in your life. There is a reason why you kept them around, but there are also reasons why that person can start to be some what of a stress-or than a stress reliever. Of course our friends can cause a bit of stress, but it can be good stress as relationships can be unbalanced at times, but never to the point, where their weight shifts you so far to the ground that you would rather stay there. Simply put the stress becomes somewhat of a constant annoyance.
So what do you do? Do you cut off this person or persons. I mean you should be able to have a mature enough conversation with your friend to resolve a problem or a situation that keeps aching like a toothache, but it seems no matter what type of solvent you apply to it, the discomfort only increases. The only solution is to pull the tooth. Yes! pull the fucking tooth. I guess maybe in my younger days I would like to solve small issues with friends, but aren’t we getting to old for that. Aren’t we and shouldn’t we be understanding enough to know when a friend is pushing us to limit and vice versa?
Its funny because I am a big social media user and I always see memes posted as I have above, about cutting off people and it makes me wonder. I mean as humans we are genetically bonded per to be social creatures. We need that comfort of being around others and having that reassurance that we are wanted, but better yet needed. As a person of New Years resolutions just like the rest of the world is, being more understanding and patient trumps my list every year. Being that is and how hard it can be at times, I feel right now in this very moment, “ why the fuck am I friends with this person, or maybe this not what I signed up for”.